Also agree with you here; it's good to attempt to "never go to sleep mad", but there are times when someone may need to "call a time-out". The issue in my marriage was that I was going to sleep fearful every night bc of the complete contempt and anger my ex had towards me and the kids. Sometimes, one is so far from a healthy relationship that "rules" or "best practices" have become obsolete, and it is merely mental and emotional survival.