The task in awakening is to find a balance between our essence qnd our personality (spirit qnd mind). Our essence is what we are born with and what makes us unique as individuals (soul). Our personality is what we aquire in the process of living and through culture, family, peers, education (ego). In the "modern world" peronality dominates to the point of excluding our essence (spirit) from the picture, the roles are reversed, essence (spirit) should be in the lead and mentoring mind/ego, body., This is the process of awakening..
I like the analogy of horse (mind), cart (body) and driver (spirit) as we are now the horse controls the cart and driver, when it should be the driver overseeing the horse and cart.