This may be the hardest lesson, since the pain is so great and the wounds are deep. I, for one, actively began taking steps to heal with talk therapy, meditation, the best possible diet, environment, and creating boundaries, etc. in my early 20s.

The best thing that helps is knowing that those wounds came from the pain of others. They own that behavior. We can only control how we respond. We did nothing wrong to be treated so poorly (unless we did, lol).

And finally say, "Oh hell no" to anyone who attempts to verbally or physically harm someone is absolutely necessary in order to heal. Would an alcoholic go to a bar every day or fill their house full of liquor. No. Kindly ask those abusive people in your life to not contact you unless they will be nice. And, sometimes, they need to be cut out entirely—to do their own healing.

💙 Serah