I hear you. Sadly some schools resent parents who are involved. My son started in K in the public school. He had special needs. He was bullied, singled out by his teacher, and the speech class he went to did not even give him time. I spoke to his teacher about things that I observed. She said that kids need to work out their own problems. I regularly asked the speech therapist when we would meet to talk about my son's progress and what I could do at home with him. Blank looks. One day she admitted that she had no time for him, that she only had time for kids who "do not speak English." His K teacher did not even know WHEN he left the classroom! I worried for his safety. At the 3 mo meeting the teacher brought in a "resource specialist" (not even the speech therapist) to tell me my son has ADD. I refused that label and they told me I was in denial and he needs medication. They sent me a letter saying I was welcome to participate in their meeting about his future. THEY FAILED.

I pulled him out of that school the day I received that letter. Very politely said "FU."

By the way, he never went on medication. I never gave him that label. He is who he is, and he is a very gifted animator and artist with a wonderful sense of humor. Funny that his K teacher was so worried that he would not follow instructions on drawing the White House. They want kids to be cookie cutter kids that they can easily "manage" and reward them for doing what they are told and not asking questions. Sad.