I’m sitting pretty high on my pity pot tonight… I will apologize now… all of this occurred while I was full time state employee…
I have lived with my elderly parents for 20 years to help them out… 6 years ago both of them went down on their health issues with my dad having quadruple bypass copd/ emphysema and Parkinson’s with dementia… only a few weeks after dad had the heart surgery, my mom coded 2x on the way to the hospital in the ambulance and ended up having a pacemaker installed… 3-4 stage renal failure and chf…. Mom rebounded pretty good… but dad continued to decline and dementia started showing more… 3 years ago he fell and end up having a total hip replacement and had to be placed in a murder home… he lived 1 year… he was also double vaxxed with moderna… mom had done pretty well up until 6 months ago… I decided to retire early in April… I only got 1 week and mom ended up in the hospital, totally independent walking around the house and continent of her bathroom skills.
I have lived with my elderly parents for 20 years to help them out… 6 years ago both of them went down on their health issues with my dad having quadruple bypass copd/ emphysema and Parkinson’s with dementia… only a few weeks after dad had the heart surgery, my mom coded 2x on the way to the hospital in the ambulance and ended up having a pacemaker installed… 3-4 stage renal failure and chf…. Mom rebounded pretty good… but dad continued to decline and dementia started showing more… 3 years ago he fell and end up having a total hip replacement and had to be placed in a murder home… he lived 1 year… he was also double vaxxed with moderna… mom had done pretty well up until 6 months ago… I decided to retire early in April… I only got 1 week and mom ended up in the hospital, totally independent walking around the house and continent of her bathroom skills.
09:36 PM - Oct 06, 2025
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06 October, 10:14
In response Brizby Finley to her Publication
You need not apologize when you feel the need to vent your frustrations. It's important to express yourself especially when you are feeling overwhelmed.
🙏 I pray God Almighty guides, blesses and protects you and especially your mom. May, He surround you both with strength, love, support, peace of mind, and comfort. In Jesus Christ's Precious and Holy Name, I pray, amen.
🙏 I pray God Almighty guides, blesses and protects you and especially your mom. May, He surround you both with strength, love, support, peace of mind, and comfort. In Jesus Christ's Precious and Holy Name, I pray, amen.
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Brizby Finley
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06 October, 10:18
In response Royal Raven to her Publication
Thank you
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Ask Yourself
@AskYourself_45
06 October, 09:52
In response Brizby Finley to her Publication
How much is one person really supposed to be able to endure along with all that work and worry… besides finally to just sit on a pity pot for a moment and hope that someone realizes how tough it has been? Even without everything else which you have not mentioned, it sure can be a lot. For all those other “normal” sounding days where the house just needs a this, or the car suddenly needs a that, or the coworker was coming in sideways, let me just tell you I think you have done a tremendous amount. By the grace of God you are still able to stand up and tell this story without one single curse word. You even started out apologizing to all of us for feeling some self-pity before you got to vent a little. This tells me you have a huge heart.
It s not for me to say when or how, but I do believe that things will not always be so hard or troubling. Until then, if you ever want to vent a little more, please feel free to DM me and I will at least hear you. Sending you love and a big hug 💞
It s not for me to say when or how, but I do believe that things will not always be so hard or troubling. Until then, if you ever want to vent a little more, please feel free to DM me and I will at least hear you. Sending you love and a big hug 💞
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Brizby Finley
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06 October, 09:56
In response Ask Yourself to her Publication
Thank you for your understanding of how I am feeling…
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Brizby Finley
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06 October, 09:46
In response Brizby Finley to her Publication
The drs told us we should put her on hospice to go home, she was no longer able to walk, period… and incontinent of her bathroom skills… my 2 siblings and I agreed to move in to care for her with hospice… so far my brother took entire month of July off to go home and the last 8 days in OKC to spend time with his wife, my sister is gone 2-4 days at a time 2-3 times a month. I have only been able to get away 2x for a total of 7 days!!! Am I the A$$HOLE for being upset about this?! I can’t even take time for my own health issues!!
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Ask Yourself
@AskYourself_45
06 October, 09:57
In response Brizby Finley to her Publication
Not at all… you are doing so much and it sounds like there is an overabundance of stress. I am hoping you find some way to care for yourself with zero guilt. Everyone else’s opinion about how you handle any of this can just wait out on the doorstep till it flies away. 💞💞💞
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Brizby Finley
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06 October, 11:38
In response Brizby Finley to her Publication
I forgot to mention that mom has Alzheimer’s dementia now too… some days we call her 10 second Tom(from the movie 50 first dates)… having to tell her sometimes multiple times a day that dad died 2 years ago… that’s a lot of fun … 😞😞 and remind her she is no longer able to walk or even stand! She tries getting out of bed or her recliner all the time… we are only able to move her around with the aide of a hoyer lift. She’s eventually (I’m afraid) going to fall and break something….
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