Yes Nana agrees but if you teach a child "how to" learn based on their learning skills and tendencies it make ALL the difference in the world.

Nana's two children were very different as well. My Son was deemed gifted, very high IQ by 4th grade and my daughter was ADHD.

We both celebrated when she graduated school because it was pure torture for us both for 12 yrs, because the school system was not geared towards helping her learn. She did not show out or have hyper tendencies, you would never know that she had the learning trait by being around her.
She is in no way stupid nor low intelligence.She is very smart but her brain works differently, and she has to learn differently.

I have mild Autism. I needed Special Ed until 5th grade. After that, I got high honors in middle and high school. Also got high honors in college. The whole system is rigged against us

I learned about that idea while taking Special Ed classes: UDL (Universal Design for Learning) as it's referred to.

Through multiple forms of Engagement, Expression, and Representation; and can be applied to all classes

Sadly, the majority of classes I've been in still teach everyone via one or two, maybe three methods -the third is usually some from of Common Core 😠
Sure there are one-on-one options that can help, but when with those the teachers or aides slip back into the 'the way we've been taught'
It's an never ending loop sadly