My mother is 4 years indepdent living, same distance. 91 and the past 10 years she became very very mean. There is no living with her and she knows that and we talk about it. We are very strong-willed independent women and she would not like being cared for by her daughter. She is the daughter of a coal miner and married a farmer. True grit she is!!! “I’ll do it myself, I don’t want anybody helping me.”