If a person is deceived, and has no way of knowing they were deceived, they are not at fault for the evil done to them; an example would be the innocence of children, the children DID NOT groom themselves. The innocent who did not know are not at fault. Those who blame themselves, or the innocent, do not have understanding as to how this this unholy manipulation works. Its wrong to knowingly groom people -as a parent or caregiver, teacher, or person in authority -thru education, politics, ads or movies or shows on tv, - thru doctors, lawyers, counselors - using deception against others to gain an advantage to harm, rob, manipulate, control, or destroy is evil. Sadly, there are people who see no harm in deception for manipulating, grooming, and profit. Love, in truth, in purity, brings to light what is hidden in shadows without condemnation or shame to the innocent individuals who had no idea what was being done to them.