If you wish to win, you must not fight against that which is unwinnable. You are learning how selfish your leaders have been. But is it selfish to breath, is it selfish to eat, of course it is. Just as sex is an extremely selfish act, of which can lead to the most unselfish act in the universe, creation of life. Therefor do not fight these things rather transmute them into acts that serve you and your fellow man.