As you heal, things become clear: Attention isn't love, attachment isn't connection, and codependency isn't support. You begin to realize that disagreements aren't attacks, lacking boundaries isn't empathy, and no amount of external validation can replace self love. Trauma bonding isn't healing, ignoring your needs isn't a strength, people pleasing isn't kindness staying in toxic situations isn't loyalty, numbing your emotions isn't coping, and suppressing your emotions or staying silent doesn't bring peace.