Our experience so far... is not ideal.
My father was not a kind man.. "okay, he was a child of his time". How was he raised.
How was grandfather as a man and father. Clearly strict and unfaithful (something that came to light during the inheritance settlement). Grandfather was, however, kind to us grandchildren. Well, grandma should be mentioned as well. She favored my father..she believed never did wrong regardless of his psycho shit. She was very nasty to my mother, and not fond of us children.

I think of the image as meant to be. There is nothing wrong with man and woman as the creator intended them to be.