I hear you, me too. I went to visit my family 2019 Christmas, in 5 years hadn't been able to cuz of $ struggles and my neice and nefew who are teens now are attatched to their phone, seemed cold and checked out like you said. My brother had a different mindset and apparently ok that they show PORN in class at school now for sex ed! Would you believe that? In the kitchen cupboard, I found 4 different pill bottles. No wonder! I thought to myself, lots changed in such a short time and lots of work needed. Gave all my love to them. P.S. My siblings not on here. I can speak freely with likeminded.