Kim, IMO, I think with each situation it is different. A man came to my house on March 1st 1987, shot and killed my husband. My daughter was 4 & 10 ft from where the bullet landed. Jeff died in my arms.😔 Months later after his arrest, I came face to face with this person. His words to me were "GoD has forgiven me so you have to" 😐 There's a LOT to this story but after a prayerful struggle and talking to him again, I was able to release my anger on him. When I think of him now it's just.." that's the man who killed Jeff" (mixed with sadness) BUT I'm now battling an anger for another person who hurt my babies and has caused emotional damage only GoD can fix, and this anger is a different beast I haven't figured out yet BUT.... I DID HOWEVER take advice from anons and breathe through it yesterday when they were thrown in my face..speaking internally to myself...they're not worth it. My peace means more. It worked yesterday 😁 so try....BREATH IN..YH BREATH OUT..WH
I love you Kim