Never forget, but release the personal hurt like a balloon. Once it's gone, it's literally not in your hands anymore. My wife prayed to God re: her difficult, hurtful relationship with her mother. Her mother has her own comprehension of relationships, primarily based on personal power, maintained by deceit, guilt and manipulation. His answer? "You're released." God has an individual relationship, with each of us, including her mother, and ultimately that is the relationship that needs the most work. As that relationship improves, so do other relationships. But if the other party serves darkness and won't turn to the light, we are counseled to continue to stay in the light.