I am grateful to have been raised when I was because somebody would be trying to gender switch me. I was and still am very Tom-Boy. Dresses make me uncomfortable,I stopped wearing make-up because chemicals and because I realized i hated how I looked without it. Fat man hands that look stupid with painted (toxic!) nails. But I love my life as a stay at home Mom, working the farm. I would describe myself just as she did, perhaps with Intuitive added in there. I dont TELL people I'm loving, thats for them to decide.
I think the problem is "Feminine" has been defined by the beauty industry.