It took me 10 years to realize that I have to heal for progress. I posted about Crystal yesterday and later on, VK responded to an Anon, "Live your life."
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For 10 years I have let everything around me become the chaos I was living. WTH😳 So, Sunday I got up and started purging and organizing everything around me that was chaos.....it's day 5, I am ALMOST finished with my office/art ridiculousness. 1 room and I feel lighter already.SHED some chaos you guys😊 I highly recommend it👊

I got married at 18, 47 yrs ago, yes I'm that old,. Married 8 years through lies, cheating, manipulation, promises never kept & abuse. My precipice was when he gave me a black eye. Filed for divorce next day. But.....I allowed this to happen, I was the enabler of the alcoholic. I thought things would change if I did this or that. I was the one who had to change, he wasn't going to. I"d had enough. Getting the divorce was just 1 step. A lot of healing needed to take place with me & I had 2 small kids as well to care for. Took me 10 years to trust another man, or to trust them with my kids. I felt like I needed a man to be whole/complete. When I finally realized I didn't, that's when I met my current husband. Had to let a lot of s*** just go. But, I believe this experience prepared me for this time. Made me tough & strong. Getting rid of the clutter in your life, whether it's stuff or emotional clutter, is exhilarating & freeing. Organizing your cabinets & life are one in the same. ✨

Yes😊 ALL OF THIS! I too was married to an alcholic. For years I tried to fix him. Dropped a fifth of Crown in our 55 gallon fish tank, told him, when that bottle is fished out of that tank I will know your priorities. When it is gone, me and the kids are gone. TWO DAYS. That is how long it lasted in that tank😳 I left, we were 1 week away from our divorce when .172 alcohol content ended his life on my motorcycle (his was in the shop). It was devestating. 29 years old, 2 small children and lost at what life held for us. But going through all of that helped me become me. I thank him for his contribution to my growth.

😉Hmmmm, we seem to have a lot in common like probably so many here. We had to go through it to see it, right? Just like now. We were the "fixers"

That's why we are here now. To help others heal💞 cuz we know how to now