PLEASE I need your help
I NEED YOUR ADVICE AND HELP
(I do not use hardly any Social Media)
Thanksgiving is coming soon all the plans are made-

BUT

This last year more than a dozen times, 2 family members that are invited to Thanksgiving houses/apartments are

INFESTED WITH BEDBUGS

I am a disabled Grandma and want to see my grandkids for a few days
(they do not have bedbugs!

So I asked the family members to bring new clothes and take a shower downstairs. leave their street clothes in garbage bags OUTSIDE of my home BEFORE they came into my home to visit the kids and family

THEY ARE INSULTED AND DO NOT WANT TO DO THIS

MY OTHER CHOICES:
1) MEET THEM AT A RESTAURANT
2) CANCEL THEIR INVITATION
3) CANCEL SEEING THE GRANDKIDS AND THANKSGIVING ALL TOGETHER

PLEASE ANY ADVICE IS APPRECIATED

I WOULD DO THE RESTAURANT THING. NOT AS HOMEY BUT FAMILY IS IMPORTANT AND TE KIDS ARE TOO. MAKES MEMORIES FOR THEM. THIS WAY NOTHING UNUSUAL HAPPENS IN FRONT OF THEM--LIKE CHANGING CLOTHES. SEEMS LIKE A WIN-WIN SITUATION AND NOTHING HAS TO BE SAID ABOUT IT GOD BESS YOU, DEAR