I have 2 pugs that are almost 14 yrs old. I have always let them hog the bed or couch.

My mom has a Doberman that sleeps with her but when my Dad passed 5 yrs ago, it was like he instictly was becoming the man of the house. He wasn't turning mean, he was just getting unruly. He was about 3 yrs old then and I had to help her tame him down. I had to physically get him down by the collar and look directly into his eyes while talking to him. I never yelled, just talked. took about 3 different times. The last time he had a tear roll out of his eyes and thats when he began to settle back down.

Just like a child, give them what they need/want but they need to know who's in charge. I do it with love and compassion. They know and sense it.